10 peculiar signs you serious need to avoid in Men!

Dating in general is not the easiest task on the planet no matter how easy it may seem. It takes the effort of both parties to make it worth the try. When it is not happening the way it is supposed to, things go wrong. The truth is, most of the time when we have issues when dating, the signs would have been there earlier but we chose to overlook it. This is because most people have the mentality that you can change the person over a period of time. This is wrong. These article is to give you an idea of the type of men to avoid before it gets too late.

1. The controlling kind: Sometimes, the controlling type of men might not be the best people to date. It may look all rosy at the beginning and you may try to overlook it, the signs that the guy you are dating might appear to be controlling or let’s use the word, power hungry. He always wants to be the one in charge of everything and not even wanting to give you a chance to voice your own opinions, then you might have to run from this one.

2. The anger management kind: I used anger-management because that is exactly what he needs to calm himself down and be slow to anger. Everyone knows how annoying women can be. We know that sometimes, it is best to let the woman win and just avoid any further arguments. Instead, he gets upset at every little thing you say. That relationship will not work because he has a million and one days to put up with you. If he can’t, let him step away and you move onto the next one.
3. The violent kind: Violence is the number one marriage wrecker. If he ever tries to throw something at you, let alone, hit you, then he is violent. Do not be deceived that he was overwhelmed with anger. No reasonable person wants to hurt their loved ones. Especially for the ladies who think their man hits them because he loves them, well one day, he will kill you so run. Run as fast as you can before it’s too late.

4. The nagging kind: There are so many men who nag and it’s very unattractive. Ladies, kindly avoid this type of men.

5. The malicious kind: Men in general are not supposed to have this trait. This is another unattractive trait that men should never display. If your man keeps malice with you, then I do not understand why he is still in your life.

6. The negative kind: This type are very bad for our health. You do not want anyone who has only negative comments about things all the time. It is never about the positive things that he can do. You have this great business idea and you are so excited to tell him but all he does it asks you what happens if it doesn’t work. Always negative. Anytime he does this, ask yourself why the other person who did it succeeded, afterall, the individual does not have two heads. Say bye to every form of negativity in your life.

7. The demeaning kind: This type always bring you down in everything. They always make you feel like you are not good enough. Nothing is ever good enough for him. This is called emotional violence. It is even worse than physical violence because it makes you feel worthless. If you think these traits are present in your man, dump him to look for his kind.

8. The vain kind: Now, these type of men are more concerned about how they look and what people think about them. They would outshine you when both of you are attending an event together. A regular guy would want the woman to be beautiful not really keeping in mind how he might look. Don’t get it twisted; he would look nice too but these are the selfish kinds who put themselves first before you. You don’t really want to end up with this type of person.

9. The flirtatious kind: These are the types that love to flirt with other women not paying mind if you are present or not. They always love to be around the ladies and can also be described as the ladies’ man. A man should have eyes for just his girl when she is there. It is disrespectful flirting with other ladies in the presence of your girlfriend. These ones are up to no good. Just walk away!

10. The mama’s boys: There is nothing more unattractive than a man who runs to his mother at every little thing that happens to them. These ones cannot take decisions by himself. He is obviously not independent. If you end up with these ones, their moms would be the people dictating your relationship.

Although no one is perfect and there is no rule book in relationships, but these are a few things you might want to avoid before it’s too late.

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5 Truths About Women, According to Men

A while back I wrote about the "Top 5 Myths That Women STILL Believe About Men." The response from readers was swift and emotional and enlightening. It was fascinating to witness the back and forth between the men (most of whom agreed with me) and women, who seemed reluctant to cede that many of their long-held beliefs about guys were either patently untrue or were watered down by the passage of time.
Well now you get to return the favor. I decided to jot down guys' favorite myths guys believe about women. I'd like you to tell me if we're on the money or not. And please don't tell me that you "can't generalize." Of course you can generalize! We all do it every single day! So here goes.
1. The Best Aphrodisiac Is a Fat Wallet: You want to know what makes a nerdy guy hot? Big bucks. Money is the great equalizer. Women who say it isn't are being terribly disingenuous. I'm not saying it's ALL that matters, but it's a massive game changer. Let's be honest here, okay? Pop superstar Seal is going through a divorce with supermodel Heidi Klum, right? Seal has always hooked up with some of the hottest women around.
Seal is not Mr. Pretty Boy. So, how did he do it? He's got one of the all-time GREAT pick up lines. "Hi, I'm Seal, pop superstar."
Deal sealed.
Not saying he's not a very nice guy. I don't know him. But I am saying that Heidi Klum is far more willing to get to know Seal the pop star than she would be with Seal the Taco Bell Shift Leader. No offense to Taco Bell. Their tacos are delicious.
2. The Green-Eyed Monster Is Welcomed: I didn't want to believe this one, but after having a couple of women shout me down about it, I'm inclined to join the ranks of the believers. Apparently, women really get bothered when their man doesn't get jealous. I was told in no uncertain terms by one young lady, "If I was going out for a night on the town with girlfriends, looking all hot, I'd be a bit annoyed if my guy wasn't a little jealous."
This was a shock to me, since I regard jealousy as an almost useless emotion. But clearly I was mistaken in my attempt to engage in a debate with her as her two friends chimed in with a well-timed, "Me, too!" and an emphatic "Exactly!"
They went on to say that they secretly enjoyed the thought of their man feeling those pangs of jealousy when another guy not-so-slyly checks her out.
Wow. Who knew? I'm now a believer.


3. You Can Take A Woman's "Love Number" and Multiply by 2: This is a funny one. While guys tend to lie about their number of sexual partners by rounding the number up, women tend to fudge the truth by rounding down. They usually justify the figure with various qualifiers like how old they were at the time, how serious the relationship was, how long the encounter actually lasted... and what people will think of her if she gave up the REAL number. But a good rule of thumb is take her number and multiply by two.
4. Bad Boys Are The First Picks: Sure, women say they want nice guys. Women don't want nice guys. For as far back as any guy can remember, the guy who worked hardest at being an a-hole was the guy who had a constant rotation of delightful women. The Bad Boy had all types of women. The nice girls, the not-so-nice girls, the nerdy girls, the sorority girls, the professional women, the shy women -- this guy manages to get them all! And even when ladies realize that this guy is kind of a jerk, they STILL stick it out with him in hopes of "changing him." Does the nice guy stand a chance? Yes, he does. Eventually after "Bad Boy" has drained the trust out of every women he encounters, THOSE women finally settle for the nice guy. And of course there's another way the nice guy can finish first... see myth number 1.


5. Women Cheat Too -- They're Just BETTER At It: Women are simply more skilled at this game than men. Part of it has to do with their ability to plan and plot their covert encounters and part of it has to do with the fact that most of us guys are fairly ignorant about these matters because men don't have the built in BS-detector that women seem to possess. Most guys just don't believe that THEIR partner is capable of such deception, so we're already walking around with blinders on. Couple that specific belief to the general belief that women don't cheat as much as men, in general, and you have the recipe for a successful illicit affair.
Think about it... you always hear about the men getting CAUGHT, not quite as much with the women -- even though statistics tell us that roughly 54 percent of women admit having had affairs in any relationship compared to 57 percent of men who made the same admission.
So there you have it. The fellas believe these all to be true. Are we wrong? Let me hear your thoughts! Leave a comment.




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Myths That Could Destroy Your Relationship

We go to school for 12 years, some go on to college, and a few even go on to graduate school. With so much education, you'd think that we would learn a thing or two about relationships! With a divorce rate of over 50 percent, it's obvious that we are not learning what we need to know about choosing a mate and keeping our romantic relationships alive and healthy. Not only are we not learning the secrets to great relationships, we are actually learning the wrong information. Modern relationship myths are responsible for many break-ups. If you're in a relationship, don't fall prey to these insidious beliefs. They will ruin your chances of long-term happiness. Myth #1: Relationships Are Hard Work When you believe that relationships are hard work, then your love life becomes about as much fun as cleaning the toilets and mopping floors. When you're in a relationship with your beloved, being together shouldn't be a chore. Relationships do, however, require attention. Fortunately, when you're in love, you want to spend time with your mate. When tending to the relationship is a shared goal, then enjoying life together becomes a pleasure and a privilege! My book 75 Habits for a Happy Marriage offers easy and fun ways to nurture your relationship so it doesn't feel like hard work. Myth #2: Love Means Never Having to Say You're Sorry Quite the opposite -- love means that when you mess up, you apologize. Your partner will see the best of you and the worst of you. They'll see you when you're angry, tired, hungry, and sleep deprived. If you are cranky, or worse, nasty, even when it feels like you have a good reason, then say that you're sorry. You can teach your partner how to apologize by your example. Having a quarrel is inevitable. How you "repair" your quarrel is your choice. So say "I'm sorry" and then have fun kissing and making up. Myth #3: Neither of Us Could Ever Have an Affair You may think that each of you is devoted, moral, and loyal. And yes, you probably both have the best of intentions. However, we all have needs for emotional and physical intimacy. Therefore, if you start to neglect your relationship or develop parallel lives, it's likely that one or the other of you could start looking for intimacy, even unintentionally, outside the marriage. When you know that an affair is possible, it keeps you motivated to tend to your relationship and make sure that both of you are feeling satisfied. Don't take your fidelity for granted! Myth #4: Once We Get Married, Then Everything Will Be Perfect If you're dating or living together, sometimes there is the fantasy that everything will be better if you just get a ring and a legal document of commitment. Then, you think you'll feel safe, happy, and settled. Unfortunately, relationships don't work that way. Marriage brings its own array of stresses (financial, legal, etc.) It isn't a magic pill to fix or improve a relationship. If you can't be happy together before marriage, it's unlikely that a ceremony is going to cure what ails you. First, make your relationship great, and then maybe marriage will be in the cards. Myth #5: My Partner Knows That I Love Him, So I Don't Need to Say It Wrong again. We all need to hear this in multiple ways, over and over again. So tell your partner with words, with love notes, with gifts, with thoughtful gestures, with texts, with phone messages, with hugs, and with healthy relationship habits every day! We are wired to attach to people and we need to know every day that we matter, that we're appreciated, and that someone has chosen us to be their special one. Don't assume that your partner is feeling this, show them again and again. An outpouring of love strengthens your bond and ensures that your partner doesn't feel taken for granted. Improve your relationship education and bust these five myths out of your life. Once you do, you'll be well on your way to living happily ever after. source:hoffpost